My daughter is 11 weeks old today and we've been working on EC since she was born. She's in cloth, a big mixture of EC style (kissaluvs with and without wool covers) and hold as much as possible PUL stuffers, like fuzzi bunz. My husband is in love with our thirsties AIOs because he can't be bothered to stuff a pocket diaper, find a cover or snap snaps. AIOs are exactly as easy as sposies, right down to the velcro fastenings.
So I'm kind of worried that DD is getting mixed messages about using her diaper. Sometimes we offer the potty, sometimes not. Sometimes we change her as soon as she's wet, sometimes she goes in an open diaper, sometimes she stays in a fuzzi bunz for like three or four hours. It just depends on busyness, where we are, what our 3-year-old is getting into, etc.
For a week or two, her diapers were starting to blow out at night, she was leaking through the fuzzi bunz and the thristies ... but then, it was like something clicked in her brain, and now her overnight dipes are really light and she always has a ton of pee for the potty in the morning. This is AWESOME!!!!!!!
But the crazy thing is, that's all I can really rely on. After her big long nap, she'll usually go as well, but otherwise, it's hit and miss. Sometimes she is dry for a long time, sometimes she goes a lot in a row, sometimes I KNOW she has to go and she holds it on the potty and waits for the diaper to go back on. Sometimes I'm totally shocked that she's wet her diaper already, even though I just changed/pottied her.
And the thing that frustrates me the most is that everyone says poop is supossed to be so easy, but we just can't do it. She has no pattern whatsoever, in fact, her norm seems to be only going once every other day or so. But sometimes she'll go three times in a day and sometimes she'll go several days between. It drives me bananas!!!!!!
She went in an open diaper once and in the potty once, but both times were when she was brand new and pooping a lot more often, and both times she started to go in her diaper and we got it off of her and she did the rest open/potty.
Now, I swear there are times where it looks like she has to go, like she's pushy or straining or whatever, but she doesn't go. I hold her over the potty and nothing. I don't think she knows what I want. And I don't know how to tell her because I always miss the poops. I'll try several times when I think she has to go, and then hours later she'll go in her diaper while I'm cooking dinner or something.
I know I'm supossed to be low key and go with the flow and not get anxious about this (I've read diaper-free baby but that's about it) but it's so weird that we're having so much trouble with the thing that's supossed to be easier.